i'm so obliged

[loonyme]

yeh i'm soo obliged for everything i have. ever since i remember i have been told to be grateful for everything -from the fact that people brought me into this world to the fact that i'm still alive.


so i can't complain that i live in a house where people are always screaming at each other so i have no peace of mind to study but i should be grateful that i have a house at all.

i can't complain about missed opputunities to further my life due to dumb restrictions that were okay for 15 year olds but soo misplaced for someone who is 22-instead i should be grateful that my life is the nothingness it is.

sometimes i think at the end of the day i'm gonna be given a bill for the 22 years of my existence and i'm gonna spend the rest of my life paying-think i'll be doing that anyways.

don't burden kids with your hopes and if you can't do that don't have kids. just<img src=smilies/2gunsfiring_v1.gif> them.

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[JCJones86]

If it's that bad in your parents house at 22, then why don't you just move out? I'd think working through college on your own would be better than living in hell for four years.

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[loonyme]

> If it's that bad in your parents house at 22, then why don't
> you just move out? I'd think working through college on
> your own would be better than living in hell for four years.

i can't i haven't paid the rent.<img src=smilies/cry.gif>

its kind of different out here where i live its not easy at all and i'm still studying.

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[fairykiller]

> If it's that bad in your parents house at 22, then why don't
> you just move out? I'd think working through college on
> your own would be better than living in hell for four years.

it's not easy to do that in india (where she's from) - lots of reasons - it's socially unacceptable, a girl is supposed to live with her family until she gets married, college is a full-time affair and so there's no opportunity to get a job (especially engineering college) and (even if she ignored social and cultural restrictions) property prices in bombay are nuts. if you're studying then you can't get a job, and without a full-time job you can't pay rent anywhere. society is structured in a very non-individualistic manner - everything centers around the family, not just your immediate family, but your extended family as well. and so students are expected to be living with their families, and this results in no jobs for full-time students, the concept of working to get yourself through college is very Western. And leaving your family would be equated to abandoning them, which is pretty serious, especially for a girl.

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[JCJones86]

> it's not easy to do that in india (where she's from)

I had no idea she's from India. If it's a Western ideal, however, then you should realize most parents over here don't even pay for their children's education. I have many friends that have no choice but to move out and work their own way through life.

Personally, I have two choices ahead of me: 1. Full-time school and working to go to any school outside a decent driving distance from here. The agreement made was that I'd pay for my dorm/apartment and every cost of living. 2. Pick a local community college or one of two or three accredited colleges nearby, live in the house, and still work quite a bit to pay off my car and rent.

We're just different, that's all.

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