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Octocrook
08-12-2003, 11:48 AM
Punch-Drunk Love still remains probably my favorite film to come out in the last 5 or so years. I mean I'm usually not compelled to watch a movie 3 times in a day, especially twice after midnight, but it's such an emotionally stirring movie that I couldn't really help it.

It's crazy because in 2 P.T. Anderson movies now, there has been a character I could identify with, which doesn't happen often cuz I'm weird. In Magnolia, it was Quiz Kid Donnie Smith (William H. Macy), and to this day, everytime I'm watching the part when he says "I have so much love to give...I just don't know where to put it", I nearly cry because I've got that confusion and love inside me all the time and sometimes it comes to the forefront of my mind and I can barely stand it.

Similarly, in Punch-Drunk Love, while it isn't exactly something to be proud of, I share lots of similarities with Barry Egan (Adam Sandler of course). It's ironic because while in every other movie I see Sandler in I think of Happy Gilmore, he is Barry Egan in this...I mean he did such an amazing performance it makes you wonder why he's chosen to do so many typical "Sandler" romantic comedies. It's crazy how many similarities I have with his character:

- Barry Egan basically has 7 sisters that are judgmental as hell and subtly beat him down psychologically into thinking he's hardly even human and simply doesn't belong anywhere. I can't even begin to explain how my mom is exactly the same way...I think that might be why she didn't like this movie, lol.

- Barry has a serious lack of intersocial skills, perfectly illustrated by a quote when he is talking with a husband of one of his sisters, asking him for help. The guy asks what's wrong and Barry says "I don't know if there is anything wrong because I don't know how other people are." Also in various spots of the movie, it's pretty evident that he's nervous as shit when talking to people he doesn't know, even telling lies here and there for no reason only to try to make himself more comfortable. It's so me it's not even funny. Shit, sometimes I don't even make calls that I HAVE to make, or I put em off put em off, simply because I'm not comfortable doing it. That's a habit I really wish I could get rid of.

- Barry has a violent temper problem...breaks windows, mutilates a restaurant bathroom, etc. While mine hasn't really gotten violent (yet), sometimes I notice myself rattling off swear words like someone with Tourette's syndrome, usually over some little thing.

- When he falls in love with Lena (Emily Watson), it's like she's his oxygen, which is exactly how it happens for me too. I can't fall for someone "a little". This has unfortunately garnered me 2 ex girlfriends that both cheated on me, but oh well...I at least know that when I find that special someone that knows when they find their special someone in me, it will be a beautiful thing. The best line of the movie is when he confronts his enemy, saying "I have a love in my life that makes me stronger than anything you can imagine."

- The half-dozen or so people that work in Barry's little company are good loyal friends, although they aren't like friends that you can seriously talk to. This is exactly the kind of friendship I have with my best friend I've known for 8 years now...we're very good friends and hang out a lot n shit, but for some reason, I've never been able to seriously talk with him. The deepest conversation I've ever had with him was once when we were both drunk and it wasn't even really that deep. I can't tell him how much of an emotional wreck I am, or that I need help establishing friendships with other people and meeting chicks n stuff. Sadly, I have similar relationships with my family...I put semi-smiles on my face and push the "ok"s and "fine"s to the limit. I'll sometimes wind up talking seriously with someone I hardly know, kinda like when Barry winds up telling a call-girl a bunch of stuff about how he's not doing as well as he wants to in his business.

- Speaking of call-girl, I've had kind of a similar experience at a strip joint with lapdancers. The first time I got lapdances, I got them from 2 "ok" looking chicks at the same time. Something new to me, I didn't really realize they are like vultures, praying on the defenseless. I wound up getting 4 dances (fucking $80...eesh) just sitting there not really knowing what to do...part of it was that I had never been intimate with anyone, so it was a new all around experience. Since then I've constantly beaten myself up about not being able to say "no". Such as life for me though...all I do is fret over little things that eat away at me like parasites. If I could stop dwelling on the past and live day by day, many of my problems would probably be solved, but that's the problem with having a great grand wonderful memory...all that comes up in my mind is the past and I can't help but dwell on it, and I find that I have little good to dwell on.

So yea...there's probably even more, but I'm getting fuckin tired. Those of you who haven't seen this movie, go see it. I don't even know how to describe it, other than it probably being one of the more serious romantic comedies you'll ever see.

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Lobster Cowboy
08-12-2003, 09:53 PM
'you are so beautiful. i love you so much i want to smash your face in with a sledgehammer'

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wingless
08-14-2003, 06:48 PM
> So yea...there's probably even more, but I'm getting fuckin
> tired. Those of you who haven't seen this movie, go see it.
> I don't even know how to describe it, other than it
> probably being one of the more serious romantic comedies
> you'll ever see.

I've seen this movie, and you reminded me of how much it touched me. maybe i'll go out after work and buy it with my boyfriend. we loved seeing it together. i love that its a movie about love and life, but it isnt a chick flick..... its just a really really good movie.

i have to double thank you... for reminding me about this movie. thinking about the movie seems to have triggered that good ol' "i love life" feeling. since reading your post and thinking about the movie, i now feel calm, content, overflowing with positive emotions. yes, i think i'll go buy that movie tonight.

i just love this feeling. i've missed it and i've been trying to figure out how to get it back. thank you! http://www.click-smilie.de/sammlung/liebe/love-smiley-021.gif

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wingless
08-14-2003, 06:50 PM
> 'you are so beautiful. i love you so much i want to smash
> your face in with a sledgehammer'

hehehehe yeah i was cracking up at that part, for various reasons.

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