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Disch
03-27-2002, 04:46 AM
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This is kind of a mini-life story rant/gripe/whatever.
very long
probably not that interesting.

I wasn't going to post here for the following reasons:

1) I actually try to kind of stay away from this forum... it's kind of a downer. I only browse like 1 out of every 15 or so threads in here.

2) I've tried to keep my internet 'life' and my real life seperate as much as possible.

3) Posting something like this will probably change a lot of people's opinions about me... this doesn't really concern me that much... but still.

4) As you've probably already noticed... this thread is pretty long =P. I didn't really want to put a big fat thread here that a lot of you won't want to read (I never have had the patience for exceedingly long threads)


but I'm posting because I really need to get some stuff off my chest. I am NOT asking for anybody's sympathy. I really don't want you guys to think that. This is stuff I need people to hear, but I couldn't say to anyone I know (IRL).


Anyway, where to start. I've always hated school with a passion. I had decent grades through grade school... then maybe a B average in middle school... C average my freshman year... barly passing my Sophomore year... and straight F's my Junior year. I just stopped caring.

Even after that, everyone around me is convinced that I'm a genious. They say I'm one of those "too smart for school" types. I think it's bullshit. I know algebra... I knew algrebra at an early age... I understand math so I learn it quickly. For some reason that gives people the impression that I'm intelligent. I never read... my vocabulary sucks... my memory is bad... I have horrible reading/verbal comprehension... and my attention span is incredibly short. Somehow I don't buy the notion that I'm a genious.

Anyway, instead of dropping out of school... I "tested" out. Which basically means the same thing except I had to take a test made for morons and I got a "diploma equivilent"... which I've already lost... maybe I threw it out... I dunno. Then I get a job at Best Buy. Not so bad at first. A lot of annoying customers, but the work is easy... the people are cool... it's not so bad.

After 7 months... it's fucking hell. I hate customers... my bosses bitch at me, we're understaffed, they schedule me closing one night (until 11:00), and opening the next day (at 6:00)... over and over. When I do have a day off, they call me in. Then they start scheduling me for overnighters. What the fuck is that. I quit.

Get a job at a state-wide restaurant chain as a busser. Better pay, better hours, better work, better people, customers aren't bitchy... it's much better. I actually kind of like it.

4 months later.. I hate it. It gets to the point where seeing a customer walk in the door makes me sick... because it means more work for me to do... but I endure it. It's still 1000x better than Best Buy.

So anyway, my sister is going to college. She hated school too... but she grew up and now she loves it. She's taking Algebra and Geometry... stuff I know... so she asks me for help.. I help her. No sweat. Later she goes on a cruise or something with her fiencee (sp?), I'm happy for her. But she wants me to sit in on her classes and take notes for her while she's gone. I say "no", but my Dad (who's sour that I left school and really wants me to go back... because of course... I'm a genious) in a way forces me to accept... or at least gives me a bunch of shit about why I should. So whatever.

Time comes to go to the class. I get there.. go in the classroom.. get in front of a desk... and freeze in my tracks. My stomach feels like it's gonna cave in. I turn around... walk out the door and head home. Until that day I completely forgot how much I hated school.

My sis gets pissed... tells my dad... I don't know what my dad's reaction was... he didn't say a thing to me. All I know is he's making me see a shrink. Now this isn't the first time they've talked about this. When I was tanking my grades in HS, I guess they got a little concerned that something was up... but they never did anything about it. Anyway, this time it really happened.

Seeing a shrink is like hell for me (what a suprise).. an hour and a half of questions that I don't know the answer to, head games, and constantly being stared at.

One day, (like the 5th or so visit), she brings a test that I have to take... like a school test... you know, fill in true or false with a No.2 pencil. 700 some questions. I answer them truthfully.. no big deal. It's better than your average session.

Results come back... it shows that I
- was telling the truth (I guess it asked multiple similar questions to see if your answers were consistent)
- suffer from severe social anxiety
- am deeply depressed
- am midly schizophrenic

My shrink is convinced that this is totally accurate... and she gives examples from previous sessions to further confirm the results. And since there was nothing really traumatic about my childhood (there really wasn't), she thinks it's a natural chemical imbalance in my brain. The only way out is medication.

Fuck... my whole life I've avoided drugs. I don't even take aspirin. Now I'm gonna have to fucking pop a happy pill every morning. Appointment gets scheduled to see another Psychiatrist (my shrink is a Psychologist) so he can prescribe something. I go mid April.

Since then (this was maybe a month ago.. but I really don't know... I have no concept of time)... I can say for sure that I've gotten a lot MORE depressed. And a lot MORE social anxiety. It's weird... it's like everything just dulls out. Foods lost it's taste... things I once loved are now really boring... I can't fucking sleep... and I can't fucking get up in the morning.

A few nights the past couple of weeks I've actually had to cry myself to sleep. Fucking 19 year old crying in bed.

It's just getting worse and worse. I had the day off today.... stayed inside all day. What did I do? Fucking sat in my room... Ate 4 slices of pizza. Tried to go outside... didn't want to. Turned on the TV, but it was boring. Flipped on some VG's.. got bored out of my mind. Tried doing a bit of programming... writer's block. Tried listening to music... just gave me a headache (even soothing music).

Now I look at myself. It's 8:45... I have to work a double shift tomorrow (work is getting harder and harder to go to).. I've spent the last hour or so typing this. I don't want to stay up because there's nothing to do. I don't want to sleep because the sooner I sleep.. the sooner I work.

So yeah... that's pretty much the story. If you managed to read the whole thing (something tells me ZeldaDD read it /wwwthreads/images/icons/tongue.gif) I'm impressed.

Now I'm gonna quick click "Continue" before I chicken out

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Vampiro
03-27-2002, 05:24 AM
Chemical Unbalance and Depression sucks..

i know what you're feeling dude.. i live it every single fucking day..
its nothing to be ashmed off.. i told the world to fuck off or i'l put a bullet in everybody who attacks my lifestyle..

its allready hard enough to have this problem.

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shawn
03-27-2002, 05:25 AM
If you are depressed like I was which seems very likely from the post then they'll probably give you zoloft or prozac, and I'll tell you what, you'll love this medication, no more worries, no more fear, no more stress, it's a happy pill if you need it and you sound like you do, take either of them and you'll feel great in a couple of days. :)

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Vampiro
03-27-2002, 05:27 AM
> you need it and you sound like you do, take either of them
> and you'll feel great in a couple of days. :)
>

Yeah unless he has the same problem like me and the pills dont do anything..

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icenine0
03-27-2002, 03:04 PM
Find something you love to do, something to look forward to every day, and things will brighten up a bit.


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puduhead
03-27-2002, 05:09 PM
I have a lot of similar feelings disch. I had my "come to jesus" experience with how much I hate school too - passionately.

I have social anxieties - I fucking like masterbating to pron better than real life sex!! :'<

And I get easily bored, etc... all I can say is i can relate to what you are going through. I've been to counseling - took myself in for it. I got referred to a Psychiatrist - take my daily anti-depressants now. A lot of times, I'm happiest by myself. But on the other hand, I get incredibly lonely eventually.

I got drunk last night - and that was a relief. It's been a week or two since I pounded down the booze. I think getting drunk one night a week keeps me sane.

Hang in there man. You're not alone.



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Kabucho
03-27-2002, 07:13 PM
Damn Discho, i'm sorry man. Life is shitty. Trust me, life has treated me the worse out of everyone i know. I ended dropping out of HS because I didn't like it for reasons pending. Maybe it was because my mom passed away at such an early age of my life? Or maybe because my family thought I was gonna be a genious, too. I really don't know man. Weird thing is, I'm going back to HS.

I got counseling when my mom passed away. I was in the 8th grade, and by that time, I was so so in school. What really blows is that I think I was being tested in a way i didn't know of, for reasons i don't really know of. My sister ended up telling me recently that the reason why I was the only one who got counseling was because I didn't cry when I found out, or when I went to her funeral. I mean, I found out at school, was in the middle of something, don't remember, and it came to so much of a shock to me, I didn't know what to do.

Well shit, Disch man, I'll talk to you tonight.

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Jathys
03-27-2002, 09:43 PM
> A few nights the past couple of weeks I've actually had to
> cry myself to sleep. Fucking 19 year old crying in bed.

I went through a time period when I would cry myself to sleep at least 4 days a week, every week, for around 2 years. That was when I was 20. A couple nights ago, I did again, for the first time in nearly 3 years. The reasons why are for me and me alone, but I will mention that I knew why it was happening and found a way to cope.

Regardless of what any shrink will tell you, no one is simply depressed or what-have-you . . . As simple-minded as this will sound, I'm telling you that you are depressed because you're not happy (my God, that was pretty bad). Anyway, you need to figure out whatever it is you are missing in your life and find a way to fill in the gap.

My God I sound like a really poorly scripted movie.

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Kijutsu
03-28-2002, 04:03 AM
Okay. . big reply time . . sorta. . with suggestions

1. You're not stupid, .. you lear n differently.. I had a friend who learned in a way that NO ONE UNDERSTOOD. I'm willing to bet you learn much the same way. Try different ways of learning things.

2. If you are depressed. I suggest getting out more. it helped me. . I was depressed for a long time. But i said fuck you depression, and started going out and having fun.

3. don't dwell on things. I almost get the impression you dwel on things. if something happens. learn from it. . and move on. don't dwell on things. It is what probably is making your depression worse

4. if you need to chat anytime. . i'm here. you can msg me on AIM at xteenwolfx.

5. good luck.



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Disch
03-28-2002, 05:10 AM
> > you need it and you sound like you do, take either of them
>
> > and you'll feel great in a couple of days. :)
> >
>
> Yeah unless he has the same problem like me and the pills
> dont do anything..
>
> Damn prozac only made me dizzy
>

It's just that you see those commercials for prescription drugs... and 2/3rds of it is them listing the sideeffects. That shit's scary. And that's only what they tell you.


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Disch
03-28-2002, 05:22 AM
> Fuck... but at least you have a job.

I swear... sometimes I really wish I didn't /wwwthreads/images/icons/tongue.gif


> I was one three different antidepressants at different
> times... I simply could not stand the thought of being
> drugged. And yet every shrink I saw insisted that was the
> only solution, because apparently I had clinical depression
> (the kind caused by chemical imbalances). I don't take any
> now... I made it pretty clear to the doctors that I wasn't
> happy about popping soma every fucking morning.
>
> Am I happier for it? In a sense, yeah, I'm a bit relieved
> knowing I'm not gallavanting about because of some
> happy-go-lucky medication. In the short run, I still felt
> lousy...

did the medication help at all though? I'm really skeptical (sp?) on the wholet thing. I don't see how a pill is going to have an effect on your emotions.

> I used to be in that stage, 'cept for the lack of taste.

Well... I still TASTE food.. but it's lost it's flavor. Hard to explain. Like I don't care what I eat... I never enjoy want I eat.... and I'm never hungry. Pretty much I've totally lost my appetite (it's been this way for a while though). I see eating as more of a chore than anything else.

> Y'know... I keep thinking how much like my own story this
> sounds.

Yeah... I actually figured this would be a common problem. I hardly suprised.

> And now, back to your regularly scheduled running around in
> underpants...
>
> *ZOOOOOOM!*

Sweet!!!

~drops pants~

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>
> (God, I must've spent an hour trying to correctly relate my
> advice... hope it's of some help, Disch. Just remember
> there *ARE* people who can sympathyze, if not completely
> understand, your predicament. I'm here for ya, as are
> countless others.)
>
>
> Begin Edit
>
> Clarification: The last several paragraphs of my reply are
> mostly in response to the shrink's analysis of your mental
> state and why the happy pills are being suggested... it's
> got nothing much to do with why you hate school. Just so
> it's not read incorrectly.
>

Actually... I think one of my problems is I get burnt out of everything so damn quick. School, my old job, now my new job... all my hobbies, my friends, my family... it's just been there so long I'm sick of it. If/When I do find something new that I like... I'll probably only like it for a month.. then I'll get sick of it.

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Disch
03-28-2002, 05:24 AM
> Find something you love to do, something to look forward to
> every day, and things will brighten up a bit.
>

I do that... but it only works for so long... /wwwthreads/images/icons/frown.gif


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Disch
03-28-2002, 05:30 AM
> Okay. . big reply time . . sorta. . with suggestions
>
> 1. You're not stupid, .. you lear n differently.. I had a
> friend who learned in a way that NO ONE UNDERSTOOD. I'm
> willing to bet you learn much the same way. Try different
> ways of learning things.

I don't really think I'm stupid or slow. I learn what I like. I like math... so I learn it.

>
> 2. If you are depressed. I suggest getting out more. it
> helped me. . I was depressed for a long time. But i said
> fuck you depression, and started going out and having fun.

Here's is where depression and social anxiety become a bad combination. I like getting out, but I don't like being around people. I've had great friends that I loved and respected my whole life, but I've always kind of distanced myself from them.

>
>
> 3. don't dwell on things. I almost get the impression you
> dwel on things. if something happens. learn from it. . and
> move on. don't dwell on things. It is what probably is
> making your depression worse

You may be right. To tell the truth I don't really know if I dwell on things too much or not.

>
> 4. if you need to chat anytime. . i'm here. you can msg me
> on AIM at xteenwolfx.
>
> 5. good luck.
>

Thanks =)


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Fla Flash
03-29-2002, 04:19 AM
Okay, Disch, this whole area (Diaries) is meant to be theraputic. And, as you will find, it is. My friend, for everything I've gone through in the last few days, I feel for you. There was probably nothing wrong with you in the first place. And there probably still isn't. Adults (you know I mean Parents) have a bad habit of screwing with things they don't have to in order to produce the "perfect child". That, alone, is crap. You're fine, bro. Just roll with the punches and you'll be really ok. Hang in there.

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Kabucho
04-01-2002, 11:40 AM
Disch I don't know where you are, but I haven;'t talked to you in like a week. Damn man, my life has been shitty too. well lately that is. I miss yah man, and don't stay away forever.

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MooglyGuy
04-01-2002, 05:18 PM
> Fuck... my whole life I've avoided drugs. I don't even take
> aspirin. Now I'm gonna have to fucking pop a happy pill
> every morning. Appointment gets scheduled to see another
> Psychiatrist (my shrink is a Psychologist) so he can
> prescribe something. I go mid April.

I'm sorry, but you need to lose that kind of mentality. Up until the point I was in 7th grade, both my mother AND I tried to avoid putting me on medication. Unfortunately, it got to the point where I was so depressed I was like you. Well, you know what? I'm on a conbination of Risperdal and Zoloft, and my life is a whole shitload better. That does NOT mean that the medication makes my life allll better. That's one thing that for some reason everyone thinks. Taking medication is NOT going to make your life all roses and happy sunshine- you still feel emotion, you still have your ups, you still have your downs, it's just that you don't feel like killing yourself whenever you have a "down" day. Fuck man, I'd have killed myself by now if it hadn't been for medication.

Just give it a little bit of consideration. It doesn't matter if you haven't taken "drugs" all your entire life- medication isn't drugs, it's stuff that helps you. It doesn't cure you, it helps you. And hey- if you don't like it, you can come back onto the board and curse me the fuck out. But I guarantee you, things will be better.

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Isildur
04-04-2002, 01:58 AM
> My first post since I re-registered:

Who were you?

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Slein
04-07-2002, 06:50 PM
> > > you need it and you sound like you do, take either of
> them
> >
> > > and you'll feel great in a couple of days. :)
> > >
> >
> > Yeah unless he has the same problem like me and the pills
> > dont do anything..
> >
> > Damn prozac only made me dizzy
> >
>
> It's just that you see those commercials for prescription
> drugs... and 2/3rds of it is them listing the sideeffects.
> That shit's scary. And that's only what they tell you.
>
I was on a once daily 25 mg dose of Zoloft for a year.. that was 2 years ago. It worked surprisingly well. The only side affects I felt were very minor (if you don't eat something w/ the pill, sometimes I had daheira (sp?), but that was easy to fix, and eventually I could take them without eating). But other than that they did nothing but a lot of good. I got over my depression, and after 1 year I was completely off the medication. The pills are good man, the pillsa re good. :)

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Lenophis
04-14-2002, 02:34 AM
Don't worry about it too much Disch. We all have problems, I was more of an outcast in school. Overall for me, it was, didn't do the homework because 1. Didn't care, 2. English class. Took 9th grade English for 3 years, which wasn't fun. Plus when yer mom rips up your homework because it wasn't to her "standard..." Then when I moved in with my dad in Oct '97, things turned around a little bit. Still didn't care to much about homework, (not uinless it was math or science.) I saw a shrink too, it was all based on "problems that aren't fixable in life." While in school, I didn't care about what everyone said about me. Hell, people got a laugh or two cause I came into HS (different area than elementary) wearing sweat pants switching to wind pants. Screw ya all if you dont like what I wear. I am who I am. Live with it. In the end, I also got a "diploma equivelant," but I dont mind. I haven't been given the grase of worrying about work and the rest of life, because... my dad (who isn't biologically,) didn't help me at all to get my driver's license, whichs sucks to the lowest of the low. And that doesn't help when businesses wont hire because of that sole fact. And I live in the middle of nowhere, which also doesn't help. *Sigh* But what can you do, except live life by the day of the week. Once May roles around, then things'll look up. Try not to let everyone get to you DIsch, I drive myself crazy trying to think what they do.

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