Question

[Narvick]

Is it a bad thing when the girl you're dating went out this weekend with her girlfriend and did a lot of coke with a bunch of gay guys? Uh, this is a hypothetical situation of course... <img src=smilies/headshake.gif>

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[JadussD]

> Is it a bad thing when the girl you're dating went out this
> weekend with her girlfriend and did a lot of coke with a
> bunch of gay guys? Uh, this is a hypothetical situation of
> course...

Pretty fucking bad any way you look at it, however...

Has she done coke before? Does she do a lot of other drugs?

Also, find out if those were really "gay guys".

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[SpaceTiger]

> Is it a bad thing when the girl you're dating went out this
> weekend with her girlfriend and did a lot of coke
> with a bunch of gay guys?

That's exactly what my girl does, except with Diet Coke. <img src=smilies/laff.gif>


> Uh, this is a hypothetical situation of
> course...

I hope this hypothetical person works it out.


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[Narvick]

> Pretty fucking bad any way you look at it, however...
>
> Has she done coke before? Does she do a lot of other drugs?
>
> Also, find out if those were really "gay guys".

Yeah, she's done cocaine before. She does it every now and then. Never pays for it though. And yes, they were gay guys. She was hanging out with her lesbian friend (she's not lesbian though), so she gets introduced to a lot of the gay community down here. Of course uh...this is all hypothetical. <img src=smilies/freak3.gif>

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[Quasius]

I would not touch anyone that did coke. But maybe that is just me.

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[Kuikorosu]

> Is it a bad thing when the girl you're dating went out this
> weekend with her girlfriend and did a lot of coke with a
> bunch of gay guys? Uh, this is a hypothetical situation of
> course...

Several things come to mind when I read that, and put myself in your situation.

"Abort! Danger, Will Robinson! Bail out! Abandon Ship! Danger! Run! Flee! Ahhhh!"

Seriously. If she smoked a little weed, I guess that'd be borderline tolerable, but coke? Fuck no. Kick the bitch to the curb, and for the love of all things holy, don't look back. <img src=smilies/errrr.gif>

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[lord_steak]

> Is it a bad thing when the girl you're dating went out this
> weekend with her girlfriend and did a lot of coke with a
> bunch of gay guys? Uh, this is a hypothetical situation of
> course...
>

Hypothetical. Right.

I'd say that cocaine usage yields bad results. So, yes, it's a bad thing, in total disregard of whatever company, whatever companions at all, partook as well in cocaine.

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[type_x]

> went out this
> weekend with her girlfriend and did a lot of coke with a
> bunch of gay guys

That's a fucking red nightmare.

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[fairykiller]

> Is it a bad thing when the girl you're dating went out this
> weekend with her girlfriend and did a lot of coke with a
> bunch of gay guys?

I don't think it matters who she went out with, coke is pretty bad regardless. Is this something she does regularly, or is it something she "tried once"? I still wouldn't be thrilled if it was the latter, but I'd be far less likely to just drop her, especially if you guys have a good thing going in most other respects.

EDIT: Sorry, just read the rest of the thread. I think you should talk to her if she is at all important to you. Explain how you feel about the situation and offer to get her help in any way. If she wants to stop and you think she is worth the effort, stay with her and make sure she does what she said she would do.
I wouldn't blame you if you didn't want to stick with this though. Coke sucks. I probably wouldn't stay in a relationship where I had to put up with it.

<P ID=&quot;signature&quot;> (&quot;http://www.angelfire.com/tx3/sfa/&quot;>)</p><P ID="edit"><FONT class="small">Edited by fairykiller on 05/28/03 12:32 PM.</FONT></P>

[blackize]

Dude, that's fucking terrible. Doing coke for one thing is just awful, then going out with a friend and doing coke with gay men makes it worse. I would suggest that the people involved in this hypothetical situation get help for the coke habit. Although the involved parties can stop using it, instead just hold on to it and sell it to a bunch of addicts. Make some money. Money, especially money in large quantities, gives you a better high than any drug.

*EDIT*

Before I get into trouble on the boards, I just wanted to clarify that I didn't mean anyhing negative when I said, "doing coke with gay men makes it worse." It's just the way I phrased what I was thinking came out, and it came out pretty shitty. Sorry.

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[puduhead]

> Is it a bad thing when the girl you're dating went out this
> weekend with her girlfriend and did a lot of coke with a
> bunch of gay guys? Uh, this is a hypothetical situation of
> course...

I may be prude, even for a drunk man, but that situation sounds bad.

I don't like drugs. I think pot is tolerable.

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[Narvick]

I have never been as angry as I was the other day. I was going out with this girl for a week. She then downgrades the relationship saying that she just isn't happy and needs to "find herself" and make herself happy before she can be happy in a relationship. So I'm like "okay, I can respect that, that's fine" So then we were 'dating'. Not two days after that she calls me and says "Jay, we need to talk". I'm like..."uh oh". She then tells me that she's now going out with another girl whom she has JUST met named Alexis, and has done nothing but pot, coke, and shrooms since she's been with her. I was speechless. I basically proceeded to bitch her out and tell her how stupid she was and that she's already been down the drug road and that she's just going to wind up going right back to the hospital after another suicide attempt, but this time maybe she will have succeeded. Either way, I was so pissed. This is why I don't understand women and this is why I hate women as a whole more and more after each failed relationship. Maybe it's different for other people, but for me, it's NEVER my fault. There's always something fucked up going on with the girl. I don't know what to do. My ideal woman is this simple: "I want a woman who is not a psycho bitch whore". And you know what? I haven't had any luck in the last 5 years. There's something wrong with this picture.

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[Narvick]

Thanks for everyone suggestions and help. When it comes down to it, she's not worth the trouble. See the "Update" thread to see the whole story.

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[Kuikorosu]

> > There's something wrong with this picture.
>
> Dude, I know this sounds simplistic, but perhaps you should
> just avoid the psycho women who snort drugs.
>

The point is that you can never tell. The nicest girl with the brightest future might be shooting heroin and screwing everything that walks in her spare time.

My philosophy stands. Sordid past? Secret life? Run like hell.

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[mcmlxxvi]

"just don't look in clubs or bars for us... Because for the most part, with few exceptions, we won't be there"

Where would you suggest one would look for these types of girls then?

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[fairykiller]

> "just don't look in clubs or bars for us... Because for the
> most part, with few exceptions, we won't be there"
> Where would you suggest one would look for these types >of girls then?

I don't think clubs or bars are a bad place to start - guess I'm one of the "few exceptions"...

Basically, if you walk into a club or bar and you see a girl doing coke or getting drunk off her ass, I'd avoid her. If she's just having a good time though, perhaps dancing, perhaps chilling with friends... then why not...



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[SpaceTiger]

> Basically, if you walk into a club or bar and you see a girl
> doing coke or getting drunk off her ass, I'd avoid her. If
> she's just having a good time though, perhaps dancing,
> perhaps chilling with friends... then why not...

Because she might turn out to be like you. <img src=smilies/magbiggrin.gif>

*SpaceTiger runs away*

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