Damn shy....

[lord_steak]

I'm aware it's a matter of being at to beat back the inner alarms, but, I cant seem to do it. She's, well, <img src=smilies/eek5.gif><img src=/wwwthreads/images/icons/crazy.gif><img src=smilies/hearton.gif> in her looks, and I've been able to talk about everything BUT romantic interest, and I've been able talk to her about all this other stuff for better than a year now. I've had a mild interest in her during all that time, and recently that's starting rising up and fast. I've been wanting to talk to her about it, but can't get it out. I don't get to see her as much I used to. I've sensed things that felt like there might be something similar running through her head, but I couldn't keep a fix on it.

I want to talk to her about it, but I don't want to lose that friendship that's developed over the last year. We both work at the same dining hall, and a fair amount of the staff know about my little crush, including the head-haunchos of the student employees. I know I must talk.

So, how the hell do I stop being so damn shy?

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[shawn]

The only thing that ever worked for me was a 6 pack of beer *and it didn't always work*, but sometimes I would say something stupid I didn't even mean because I was drunk and stupid then. <img src=smilies/cwm11.gif>

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[thegodofhellfire]

Alcohol, my friend, and lots of it. Nothing beats a bit of the old Dutch courage.

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[thegodofhellfire]

Haha, you actually used cue cards? Wow - you must have been terrified. It's all about being natural. Don't treat it as a huge thing - even if it is a huge thing to you. You'll come across as far more easy-going, and you won't look as bad if it doesn't go to plan.

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[lord_steak]

> Wow - you must have been
> terrified.

I guarantee you I get scared every time the brain says "Ask her out."

> It's all about being natural. Don't treat it as a
> huge thing - even if it is a huge thing to you. You'll come
> across as far more easy-going, and you won't look as bad if
> it doesn't go to plan.

Yeah. I'll think of something. Anything. We've already gotten coffee, and that was the big shot I had, and I just couldn't spit it out. Instead, we learned a good about the other's past that day. I think I'll ask her to lunch & a walk, or dinner & a movie, if I can prevent m'self from getting too nervous, and can get her to talk to me for a bit (before she runs off to the next thing; those music major types never seem to rest at all).

Okay, I've got an analogy. Think of it like this: you're hunting, you've got a 24-point buck in the scope, you've got what looks like a long but clear shot, and the shock of it all keeps you from pulling the trigger.

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[puduhead]

> Alcohol, my friend, and lots of it. Nothing beats a bit of
> the old Dutch courage.

It sure as hell does!! <img src=smilies/magbiggrin.gif>

Now, I make no guarantee as to the quality of the lady you procure through this means of alcohol-induced-confidence. <img src=smilies/laff.gif>

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[Kitsune Sniper]

Hrm...

http://www.deviantart.com/deviation/1801702

That's my take on it. Think about it.

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[thegodofhellfire]

I know exactly what it feels like, I've been in almoest that exact situation, and I was terrified. Really, once you start speaking it'll be fine. Just disengage your brain for the half second it takes to get going, and you'll be sorted.

The more you think about it, the harder it gets. Don't think. Just do.

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[thegodofhellfire]

> Now, I make no guarantee as to the quality of the lady you
> procure through this means of alcohol-induced-confidence.

Absolutely. The beer scooter's got a lot to answer for.

*shudder*

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[lord_steak]

Got informed by one of my friends that he talked to her. She said to him that she wasn't interested, and that's she's known I've had something for her all this time. Swell. No wonder I got the cold shoulder from her shortly after I arrived at work. Looks like what I was trying to avoid by NOT talking about went and happened with the feelings came out: she's not gonna talk to me, when we used to be able to talk about anything and everything. I'm depressed. I need a hug. Don't really care from who at this point.

Bartender, pour me a hard one. <img src=smilies/crying.gif><img src=smilies/crying.gif><img src=smilies/crying.gif>

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[thegodofhellfire]

No, from what you said, I thought you stood in front of her and read from them! That would have been bad. What you're talking about's okay. Phew.

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[type_x]

> I'm depressed. I need
> a hug. Don't really care from who at this point.
>
> Bartender, pour me a hard one.
>

Aw, man. I'm sorry to hear that. Don't give up yet though! You haven't even talked with her directly. Almost any girl would respond the same way to the shy-guy crush- if you totally change your approach and get comfortable and direct with her, perhaps she would feel differently. I had the same experience in high school and I was able to turn it around by being straight with her and giving it some time. If not, there's millions of other girls out there. Good luck, bud. <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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[Lobster Cowboy]

hold on a minute there, charlie

you've gone to coffee, and you're going to ask her to dinner or a walk?

the dirty work is done man.

you just have to give her signs during these encounters to show that you're interested. you know, interested. and don't take that sexually, you fuckin' pig

well, okay, you can take that somewhat sexually ;)

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[MooglyGuy]

Here, I'll let this smiley express everything that I'm feeling right now:

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Do you know why? You did the exact same thing to that poor girl in your post as your friend just did to you. I know this sounds asinine, but I hope that now you know what it feels like.

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[lord_steak]

> Do you know why? You did the exact same thing to that poor
> girl in your post as your friend just did to you. I know
> this sounds asinine, but I hope that now you know what it
> feels like.
>

The key difference is that with him, things didn't blow sky-high. Here, they did. By no means would I call that the same thing.

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