Frustrations with the ladiez.

[icenine0]

Ok, so, recently when I've been up at the University, I've been running into a lot of women I know from my old high school... well, actually three so far. And our conversations have gone like this:

"Hey, Tyson! How's it going?"

"Hey (tries to remember name) uhhh... you, It's going pretty good! How are you doing?"

"Fine."

(silence)

"Well, I'll catch you later Tyson! See ya."

This has happened four times already! Twice with the same girl...

The latest, today, happened in the computer lab. I was listening to music on my headphones and writing a "finals week paper" when SUDDENLY a new mysterious girl from my past tapped me on the shoulder. She said "Hi Tyson, how's it going?" and sat down next to me... ostensibly to write her paper.

"It's going good, what are you doing here?"

"Oh, writing a paper."

"Oh! Uhmmm... same here."

(silence for about a minute as she does some stuff on her computer)

"Well, see ya later Tyson!"

Do they just say "Hi" to me in the hall, do they like me, or what!? Was I supposed to say something during that (silence)? *Smacks self in head*

See, here's the thing: I never really did anything really "extra curricular" in high school -- no dances, no football games, no prom BLAH BLAH BLAH. I thought it was all stupid. However, I was pretty popular in my classes. I have a nice voice, if I say so myself (that Il Palazzo recording was me, by the way), and people always called on me to read because I spoke so "boomingly" and "melodiously". Also, we'd be analyzing a novel and I'd say crazy things that made people laugh, like:

"I think the key existential conflict of this novel lies at the very CRUX of the space-time continuum. You see, Conrad, the main character, hurtles irrevocably toward his goal of superstardom..."

So, these ladies could be:

1. The care-bear types who just want to see how that "loser" is getting along now.
2. Just saying "Hi"!
3. Part of my personal underground fan club.
4. Like me in that special way.

I... just... don't... know...

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[MooglyGuy]

Same thing happens to me. This one girl that I barely even got along with was in the music building when I went there for one of my courses at ETSU (the high school that I went to is actually a building on-campus, so I see a lot of high school students around campus), and she was like,

"RYAN!!!"

I turn around, "Oh, hi, Katherine!"

She runs up and gives me a hug. "How's it going, Ryan!?"

"Great, how about you?"

"Doing awesome! ...So, I'll see you later!"

"Cool, you too!"

Now repeat that conversation with another girl named Carmen (who I got along with quite well), and then two other girls named Suzanne and Georgia respectively (both of who I was friends with).

I'm a hip mofo with da leddehz, yeeeeeah! <img src=smilies/magbiggrin.gif>

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[SwampGas]

> "Hey, Tyson! How's it going?"
> "Hey (tries to remember name) uhhh... you, It's going pretty
> good! How are you doing?"
> "Fine."
> (silence)
> "Well, I'll catch you later Tyson! See ya."

"actually, i've been meaning to ask you something..."

"yeah?"

"see, ever since high school you've always caught my eye...let's have dinner."

if ($ack)
echo "great...where?"
commence_dating();
elseif ($nak)
echo "how about we go grab something real quick now to catch up? you do look really nice today..."
commence_dating();
elseif ($maybe)
echo "well let's go get something now while you decide...i'll buy <img src=smilies/magbiggrin.gif>"
commence_dating();
else
{
$_SELF = "loser";
commit_suicide();
}

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[Kitsune Sniper]

I think I know how you feel... ever since my ex dumped me, more and more girls seem to want to hug me for no reason.

It's odd.

And no, I don't care for all of these girls, I just want one and she barely talks to me...

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[Disch]

I love nerdy computer equations about how cool you are/can be.<img src=smilies/biggthumpup.gif>

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[fairykiller]

> So, these ladies could be:
>
> 1. The care-bear types who just want to see how that
> "loser" is getting along now.

I doubt it - they probably feel the same way that you do after you say goodbye to each other. When I don't like a guy, or I think he's creepy and don't want to know him, I avoid him like the plague. If they're coming up to you and giving you a hug, they probably do care about you. And they're likely to be as interested in seeing that the conversation doesn't end in an awkward silence.
Perhaps when conversation starts to dwindle, you could insert a little line about how it sucks that you guys haven't met in ages, and that you should catch up sometime - how about tomorrow over dinner? Then if she says no because she's busy doing something else (class, some activity etc.), that's a perfect opening to ask her about what she's doing. Once you get her started talking about herself, she's going to feel like you're reciprocating the caring she showed when she came up to you... <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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[lord_steak]

> 1. The care-bear types who just want to see how that
> "loser" is getting along now.
> 2. Just saying "Hi"!
> 3. Part of my personal underground fan club.
> 4. Like me in that special way.

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5. You could be the "teddy bear."

I've got this status, and so does a very good friend of mine. I'm one that they all like, and all like to talk to and give hugs to, but none of them would date me (or that buddy of mine). <img src=smilies/cwm10.gif> Irritating as hell, I'll tell ya'. This is where being a nice guy suddenly becomes amazingly shitty. *turns up The Tragic Prince and tries to forget the troubles of life* <img src=smilies/crying.gif>

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[Octocrook]

How long has it been since you last saw them (in high school)? If it's been a few years, then the fact that they remembered you and decided to say hi is very good. I know what you mean about those awkward silences though. Once, there was mad traffic getting into college at like before 8 in the morning, and this incredible looking girl comes up and asks me the time...I said about 8 (I didn't have a watch). Then I was like "Was this traffic insane or what?" and we started talkin for a little while walkin to college. Then it all of a sudden stopped. I don't remember the last things said, but after that it was like we never said a word. I HATE that! I mean whether or not you're smooth with the ladies, those silences can just catch you off guard. Or even worse than that is if you're talking to them, and they bump into some hot guy that they know and havent seen for a while and are like "heeeeey!" etc. *sigh*

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[MooglyGuy]

*snip*
] Or even worse than that is if you're talking to
] them, and they bump into some hot guy that they know and
] havent seen for a while and are like "heeeeey!" etc. *sigh*

Believe me man, I feel your pain. There's this one preppie asshole who used to go to the same high school as me, all the girls fawn over him and go on about how smart he is, despite the fact that while he was a Senior in HS and I was a Junior, now I'm a Sophomore and he's a Freshman. Well anyway, this one female friend of mine, she's squealing and talking to him and swooning this and that, and she didn't even notice me until I said hello. Some friend, huh? It's kind of sad when all of my real friends are in college along with me, and I'm only finishing the first full-time year there, whereas I went to high school for three years. <img src=smilies/headshake.gif>

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[icenine0]

] How long has it been since you last saw them (in high
] school)?

It's been only about a year now -- but, in any case, I find that people always remember me, cuz I guess I'm pretty unforgettable. After all, I'm 6'8" and pretty eccentric. I remember the day I brought DDR to school and everyone was agape at how "That big guy can move that FAST."

Also my senior prediction read:
"Tyson will design an incredibly complicated computer system for the CIA and stay on to help them figure out how in the heck to use it."

I think people saw me as some sort of quirky genius. <img src=smilies/magbiggrin.gif>

I don't mean to brag. I wasn't very social in high school and people pretty much left me alone, but I'm realizing just now that a lot of people might've actually liked me back there.

] If it's been a few years, then the fact that they
] remembered you and decided to say hi is very good. I know
] what you mean about those awkward silences though.

Yeah, I hate em'... I feel that I stayed so isolated in high school that these situations catch me off guard.

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[icenine0]

Thanks for your comment... upon reflection, it makes a lot of sense to me. It's difficult for me to openly trust people from the get-go; I usually want to find some kind of alterior motive, but I guess there just isn't one here.

Next time, I'm going to take your and SwampGas's advice. <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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[Dark Macc]

> *breaks out the clue stick*
> women don't just come up and say "hi" for no reason. awkward
> silence like that means "hi. nice shoes. wanna fuck?"
>
> *proceeds to beat you with aforementioned stick of clue*

'Bout damn time someone did that. <img src=smilies/biggthumpup.gif>

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[icenine0]

> *proceeds to beat you with aforementioned stick of clue*

OWOWOWOW SHIT OW JESUS MY EYE OW <img src=smilies/errrr.gif>

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Well, based on everyone's cumulative review, now I just have to decide which of the fine ladies to approach first.

*sigh* Why does it have to be finals week? /wwwthreads/images/icons/tongue.gif

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[icenine0]

Chastise not, lest ye be next beneathe the sticke!

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[Slicer S. V.]

> I... just... don't... know...
>
haw, i have a totally different problem. i know that a certain yong woman in another branch likes me... no i should clarify, she claims to REALLY like me... my problem is that i can't figure out what on earth she likes me for in order to stop doing it :P

i really do not want to get involved with any women right now, as i still have a mission to go on in a couple of years. while i'm gone on my mission i'll be homesick enough being away from computers and games... add having a girlfriend back home to the mix... i just don't want that stuff distracting me while i preach the gospel of the Lord... call me gay all you want, but the reality is that i'm plenty interested in girls, i just try to tuck it away until a later time

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[lord_steak]

> call me gay all you want, but the reality is that
> i'm plenty interested in girls, i just try to tuck it away
> until a later time
>

You're so GAY!!!

But really, good luck with the mission. Where are you off to?

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[Slicer S. V.]

> But really, good luck with the mission. Where are you off
> to?

i won't know until i fill out mission papers in another couple of years. then i still won't know until a few months later when they are sent back. i'll prolly be sent to the middle east somewhere tho, cause my patriarchal blessing tells me that i'll be serving my mission in a 'land of strife' or some-such thing :P

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[lord_steak]

] i won't know until i fill out mission papers in another
] couple of years. then i still won't know until a few months
] later when they are sent back. i'll prolly be sent to the
] middle east somewhere tho, cause my patriarchal blessing
] tells me that i'll be serving my mission in a 'land of
] strife' or some-such thing :P

Didn't know it took that long to get the paperwork filed.

I was asking 'cuz a cousin of mine is on a mission in Oceania. Can't remember exactly where though. I want to say somewhere in Indonesia, but don't quote me on that.

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[Slicer S. V.]

> Didn't know it took that long to get the paperwork filed.

it doesn't actually. you just don't even file until at least eighteen, and definately not until you plan on actually going, so i'm planning on filing a few months before i'm nineteen. i want to spend an extra year with my games and computers first :)

> I was asking 'cuz a cousin of mine is on a mission in
> Oceania. Can't remember exactly where though. I want to
> say somewhere in Indonesia, but don't quote me on that.

oh, cool. so some people in your family are converts? converts are always real neat people to talk to, as in converts from another faith or no faith at all, because technically everyone who devoutly claims a religion has to have been converted to their at some point whether they were born into it or not, otherwise it isn't really faith at all, merely going thru the motions

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[puduhead]

> oh, cool. so some people in your family are converts?

> converts are always real neat people to talk to, as in
> converts from another faith or no faith at all, because
> technically everyone who devoutly claims a religion has to
> have been converted to their at some point whether they were
> born into it or not, otherwise it isn't really faith at all,

> merely going thru the motions

Cool. so i must be pretty neat-o since i converted from LDS to Satanism. ?

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[Slicer S. V.]

> Cool. so i must be pretty neat-o since i converted from LDS
> to Satanism. ?

no... that doesn't count... i'm talking about converts to my religion are cool for me... to another satanist perhaps you'd be pretty cool... but i decline further comment

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[puduhead]

> no... that doesn't count... i'm talking about converts to my
> religion are cool for me... to another satanist perhaps
> you'd be pretty cool... but i decline further comment

Gotcha. actually, i guess i'm not cool to anyone based on a belief system... cuz i don't have one.

It's ok, i'll just have to find another way. hmmm...

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[lord_steak]

> it doesn't actually. you just don't even file until at
> least eighteen, and definately not until you plan on
> actually going, so i'm planning on filing a few months
> before i'm nineteen. i want to spend an extra year with my
> games and computers first :)

Since I've been at college, I've had the funny idea that everybody I speak/reply to IRL or online is a legal adult...I need to remember that there are still people younger than me who aren't exactly children.

> oh, cool. so some people in your family are converts?
>

I would be one. Raised in it, turned away from it, came back with an entirely different look at everything. The others were either born in it or are agnostic.

As for my cousin, he was born in it, and kept header in deeper all of his own accord.

EDIT: I should've said that a number of them went through the motions before just admitting agnostism.

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