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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 12:03 AM
OK, here's the story... there's this girl that I know... and when I broke up with Rach I started to get interested in her... she thought I was cute and all... but she lives a good... 800-900 miles away, so she wasn't interested. Well, Valentines day shows up and I write her a message saying that I liked her and that I wish we lived closer and all... haven't heard from her since... in fact, she leaves whenever I talk to her <img src=smilies/crying.gif>

I've tried apologizing... but she doesn't respond... just leaves. I still want to be friends with her though ;_;

is there anything i can do so that she talks to me again? and yeah... you guys know her :--/

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JadussD
02-26-2003, 12:22 AM
> is there anything i can do so that she talks to me again?


Here's my advice:

Stop fucking falling in love with women on the Internet. Get some fucking balls, some tact, some self-esteem, and talk to some women in real life. And hopefully women in an age group that allows you to actually relate to them.

Also, if a woman don't like you, she don't like you. You can't make her like you.

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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 12:34 AM
> > is there anything i can do so that she talks to me again?
>
>
> Here's my advice:
>
> Stop fucking falling in love with women on the Internet

bite me :)

> Get some fucking balls, some tact, some self-esteem, and talk to
> some women in real life. And hopefully women in an age group
> that allows you to actually relate to them.

you know how bloody hard it is to find single women here?!

> Also, if a woman don't like you, she don't like you. You
> can't make her like you.

all I really want is her to forgive me and be friends again... is that so wrong? It's not like I want her to just yell out "Marry me Brad!"


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SwampGas
02-26-2003, 01:24 AM
> good... 800-900 miles away, so she wasn't interested. Well,

actually, it's 811.7 miles. i was asked to pick you off next time you leave the house, but the person couldn't come up with enough cash to pay me and afford the gas money.

i'll be nice and go for a head shot. you won't feel a thing.

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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 01:30 AM
> actually, it's 811.7 miles.

how the bloody hell do you know that? X_X

unless you made that number up o_O


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SwampGas
02-26-2003, 01:34 AM
> how the bloody hell do you know that? X_X
>
> unless you made that number up o_O

seemed fairly accurate according to yahoo maps.

now my question to you is which road off university blvd do i take? do i split off on to 109?


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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 01:39 AM
> seemed fairly accurate according to yahoo maps.

oh yeah... you can do city by city huh?

> now my question to you is which road off university blvd do
> i take? do i split off on to 109?

109? huh?

and like I'm going to give you my street address :P


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MooglyGuy
02-26-2003, 02:15 AM
Dude, you have Asperger Syndrome. You, me, and thousands of other people with it are fucking destined to be celibate for the rest of our sad, pathetic, depression-riddled life. Get with the program.

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icenine0
02-26-2003, 02:16 AM
If she's 800-900 miles away, it's not gonna work out. The whole internet dating scene sux0rs... dating through text sux0rs. You might as well read a trashy romance novel and fall in love with the protagonist. Like JadussD said, in not so harsh of words, go find a chick nearby if you want some lovin'.

And don't get hung up on this lady that's avoiding you. She was never real in the first place. :)

....

*cough*

On the flip side, if her name is Janet, you could always try singing a http://www.aros.net/~paladin/Rocky Horror Picture Show - Dammit Janet.wmaduet</A>. /wwwthreads/images/icons/wink.gif


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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 03:02 AM
> Dude, you have Asperger Syndrome. You, me, and thousands of
> other people with it are fucking destined to be celibate for
> the rest of our sad, pathetic, depression-riddled life. Get
> with the program.

if celibrate means what I think it means, you're wrong
there's this one couple that I know (father has Aspergers) that had a kid who also has Aspergers...

love is STILL possible! It's just getting through all the odd gesturing and such... probably why it's easier for me to talk to other women online... less ways to screw up :P

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shawn
02-26-2003, 12:38 PM
Brad, I think myself your a nice guy but you react way to easy when people criticize you and you seem to fall for every girl you meet but your still a young man and your hormones are at high levels as usual for guys your age. So my advice is to just take it easy and use criticism positively and as for the woman I find they don't like guys trying to get with them all the time and as for not getting laid, well don't worry about it, it's better when you find the right girl and not just jump in the sack with the first one that is willing, my first time was the worst experience ever, I was nervous and self conscious and had no clue on what to say or do* I knew what to do but not what she might like personally*, being a virgin is not that bad, don't remember the last time I got laid and to tell you the truth I won't sleep with another woman until I find one that I feel comfortable being around and I have feelings for besides lust and the main thing isn't getting her in the sack, I've read a lot of your posts bud and I think when you find a girl who gets through to you to know the real you then you'll find someone who'll be worth sleeping with and then you'll never regret any waiting because she'll be a real prize. Just hang in there bud and she'll come along. <img src=smilies/magbiggrin.gif>

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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 12:42 PM
> Brad... I said you were cute once. And personally you are.
> You remind me a lot of some of my friends. But guess what?
> You are far far away, and I have someone very special in my
> life. I'm past the stage of relationships that have no
> meaning behind them.

There's a reason why I got misled thinking you were interested... I'll try to explain next time I see you

> I want something else besides cute
> emails and perhaps a scantily clad video chat, or a card
> through email.

I only sent you one... and that was the one Valentines things just telling you how I felt.... I didn't expect for you to all of a sudeen turn interested in me...

> Sorry. You aren't my type, and the more
> that you tried to get me to like you, the more you scared
> me. That's the reason that I won't talk to you. K? Quit
> being so creepy and sending AIM's that say I love you. K?

ugh, after I found out you were mad at me I was trying to apologize.. but you kept on ignoring me... I was never trying to get you interested n me...

> Just chill out and I'll see you on IRC occasionally.

well, last night we talked, and throughout the converstion I got quite confused about a lot of things... just.. stuff that I really didn't understand... then Elazul basically lost his pacience(damn spelling) and left.. then you blocked me... honestly I wasn't playing stuped or anything... it's just that I get really confused with social stuff that's allI really... really need thing to be explained in simple terms... and even then I don't get it sometimes... it takes time to give me advise because wel... I don't really get it... I think Elazul and a few other people need to understand this instead of trowing there hands in the air giving up on me....
like I said... I reallly need advice and I'm hoping you'll give me another chance when I see you on IRC chance

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lord_steak
02-26-2003, 12:54 PM
Perhaps I should introduce you to Sgt. Pepper.

Dude, if she's 800-900 miles off, you're looking at an utterly impossible situation. Long-distance relationships DON'T WORK. I've watched a few of my friends try it and fail miserably. The longest distance for me was 30 miles, and that turned into what I now call "The Bold and the Benjamin." I know it's tough to ignore an interest (check my post "Shoot me before I..." and you'll see another utterly impossible situation), but you gotta do it. The hormones are incessant, I know, and I hear their suggestions every waking hour of the day as well. In the words of Yoda: "Control, control, you must learn control."

Hang tough. And, yes, single girls (and guys that are decent) are impossible to find around here as well. I'm praying for ya'. <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 01:05 PM
> Brad, I think myself your a nice guy but you react way to
> easy when people criticize you

that's due to my horrid past... I was picked on so much... I get to the point where and insult means "(s)he fuckin' hates me"

> and you seem to fall for every girl you meet but your still a young man and your
> hormones are at high levels as usual for guys your age.

I get... really fucking lonely... I search and search and search for someone... then I met Rach and even though she's far away.. I love her and I'm happy... and yet I still have feelings for other women... just doesn't make sense

> So my advice is to just take it easy and use criticism
> positively and as for the woman I find they don't like guys
> trying to get with them all the time

egh... I found that out again... again.. and again... but what the hell am I supposed to do when women never come to me?

> and as for not getting laid, well don't worry about it

I do... trust me... getting laid is a high priority.... just liike any other guy (I think)

> it's better when you find the right girl and not just jump in the sack with the first
> one that is willing, my first time was the worst experience
> ever, I was nervous and self conscious and had no clue on
> what to say or do

well I got close... once, and for some reason I was pretty damn good... I dunno... natural lover? o_O
that's if I actually find someone... but eh... she cheated on my later(as in a few days) sooo... :-/

> I knew what to do but not what she might
> like personally*, being a virgin is not that bad

yeah... it is

> I've read a lot of your posts bud and I think when you
> find a girl who gets through to you to know the real you
> then you'll find someone who'll be worth sleeping with and
> then you'll never regret any waiting because she'll be a
> real prize. Just hang in there bud and she'll come along.

well... there's Rach who I love... and I'll have to wait a while before I even really meet her... but given that we stay together... it will be magic :)


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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 02:32 PM
> Dude, if she's 800-900 miles off, you're looking at an
> utterly impossible situation. Long-distance relationships
> DON'T WORK.

actually, in some cases it can... my good friend James had a long distance relationship for 4 years... ntil she died of cancer... it IS possible

> and that turned into what I now call "The Bold and the
> Benjamin." I know it's tough to ignore an interest (check
> my post "Shoot me before I..." and you'll see another
> utterly impossible situation)

that was the one with 15 year old girl right? I think age means nothing, unless it's REALLY extreme (like 30 year old man fucking someone who's... 12 *shudder*)

> but you gotta do it. The hormones are incessant, I know, and I hear their suggestions
> every waking hour of the day as well. In the words of Yoda:
> "Control, control, you must learn control."

I have trouble with that :-/

> Hang tough. And, yes, single girls (and guys that are
> decent) are impossible to find around here as well. I'm
> praying for ya'.

er.. pray? yeah I guess that's cool

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puduhead
02-26-2003, 04:12 PM
> Dude, if she's 800-900 miles off, you're looking at an
> utterly impossible situation. Long-distance relationships
> DON'T WORK.

Word. Long distance blows! ...and not literally either! <img src=smilies/crying.gif>

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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 04:37 PM
> I was picked on probably way more than you.

doubt it

> I was skinny.
same here
> I was short.
same here
> I was nerdy.
same here
> I was weak.
same here
> I sucked at every sport.
same here
> I was way behind socially.
same here
> I was shy.
same here
> I was poor.
well... maybe not that :-/
>
> And I overcame ALL that. You can too.
I have been... almost there... I think
>
> I'm still skinny and poor, but hey
haw


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shawn
02-26-2003, 04:40 PM
> > that's due to my horrid past... I was picked on so much...

> I was picked on probably way more than you.
I was also almost more than anyone else in school
> I was skinny.
Me to
> I was short.
Me to
> I was nerdy.
Me to
> I was weak.
I was a total wimp, couldn't fight my way out of wet toilet paper.
> I sucked at every sport.
Me to
> I was way behind socially.
That's a major understatement for me
> I was shy.
More than anyone else I knew, I had one date in all of highschool and went to the prom alone also.
> I was poor.
Me to

> And I overcame ALL that. You can too.
You should listen to chiefmonkey because he's 100% right on this one, all you have to do is slow down a bit and forget the past and think before you do or say anything that's not your usual routine till you get it right.
> I'm still skinny and poor, but hey
I wish I was still skinny. <img src=smilies/crying.gif>

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lord_steak
02-26-2003, 04:49 PM
Hmm, since we're comparing our wretched pasts....

> I was picked on probably way more than you.
I was everyone's favourite target.
> I was skinny.
I was fat.
> I was short.
Nothing here.
> I was nerdy.
Yep.
> I was weak.
Yep.
> I sucked at every sport.
Yep.
> I was way behind socially.
Oh yes, definately.
> I was shy.
Probably more than you.
> I was poor.
Yep.

And to top everything off, I've had continual strife in the home. First it was my father vs. my mother. Then they split, my dad got custody, and it became my father vs. my brother. Dad wasn't around very much, and my brother is bi-polar, short-tempered, and violent. Since my dad remarried, it's been my step-mother vs. my father. Don't whine too much about horrid pasts and bleak futures; I have both.

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RedXIII
02-26-2003, 05:07 PM
>Just hang in there bud and she'll come along.
>

True, or may I suggest going into the porn business? Tons of ass there and you get paid for it. You could be the next Ron Jeremy. <img src=smilies/laff.gif>

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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 05:10 PM
> True, or may I suggest going into the porn business? Tons of
> ass there and you get paid for it. You could be the next Ron
> Jeremy.

my wang isn't big enough<img src=smilies/erm.gif>

besides I have someone right now ^_^

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lord_steak
02-26-2003, 05:13 PM
> my wang isn't big enough

Thanks for sharing. <img src=smilies/erm.gif>

> besides I have someone right now ^_^
>

Okay...why didn't you say so before? <img src=smilies/cwm10.gif>

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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 05:15 PM
> > my wang isn't big enough
>
> Thanks for sharing.

you're welcome<img src=smilies/biggthumpup.gif>

> > besides I have someone right now ^_^
> >
>
> Okay...why didn't you say so before?
like I said... I want Brooks and I to be friends... I sent her the Valentines thing when Rach and I were apart... but we're back together now


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lord_steak
02-26-2003, 05:18 PM
> like I said... I want Brooks and I to be friends... I sent
> her the Valentines thing when Rach and I were apart... but
> we're back together now
>

Well then, good luck, and congrats, and I'll just crawl back to see if I can replace the drummer.... <img src=smilies/crying.gif><img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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Dark Macc
02-26-2003, 05:49 PM
> Long-distance relationships DON'T WORK.

Bullshit. I'm in one right now, have been for three years, we're engaged, and everything is going well. That's a generalization, not a fact. Don't state it as one.

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icenine0
02-26-2003, 06:05 PM
Yeah, well look around you Macky boy. Most of em' don't work out, that's undebatable.

You were a lucky duck.

Overall, do long-distance relationships cause more pleasure or pain? That, to me, seems plain to da eye.

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puduhead
02-26-2003, 06:15 PM
> > Long-distance relationships DON'T WORK.

> Bullshit. I'm in one right now, have been for three years,
> we're engaged, and everything is going well. That's a
> generalization, not a fact. Don't state it as one.

True... but perhaps it is his fact, generally speaking. Truth is in the eye of the beholder and all that.

It's certainly my fact!

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lord_steak
02-26-2003, 06:18 PM
> Bullshit. I'm in one right now, have been for three years,
> we're engaged, and everything is going well. That's a
> generalization, not a fact. Don't state it as one.

Very well then:

Long-distance relationships DON'T WORK, except in the case of Dark Macc, and precious few other highly scattered exceptions. <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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Dark Macc
02-26-2003, 07:12 PM
> Very well then:
>
> Long-distance relationships DON'T WORK, except in the case
> of Dark Macc, and precious few other highly scattered
> exceptions.

Much better <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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JadussD
02-26-2003, 08:49 PM
> like I said... I want Brooks and I to be friends... I sent
> her the Valentines thing when Rach and I were apart... but
> we're back together now
>

you can get lots of love in prison, don't ya know?

three meals a day and all the sex you can handle.

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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 09:29 PM
> you can get lots of love in prison, don't ya know?
>
> three meals a day and all the sex you can handle.

for once.. could you stop being a dick?


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MooglyGuy
02-26-2003, 09:31 PM
> > you can get lots of love in prison, don't ya know?
> >
> > three meals a day and all the sex you can handle.
>
> for once.. could you stop being a dick?

For once, could you think with your brain and not your dick? She's what, 15? And you're what, 19? Jesus, Brad. The only relationship I've had where my girlfriend was younger than I was was when I was 15 and she was one grade before me, so therefore one year younger. It's not like I'm 17 right now and am hitting on 13 year olds. Christ.

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JadussD
02-26-2003, 09:40 PM
> > you can get lots of love in prison, don't ya know?
> >
> > three meals a day and all the sex you can handle.
>
> for once.. could you stop being a dick?
>

Pardon me for being the realist.


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Paladyn
02-26-2003, 09:42 PM
You know why you're in Long distance relationships? They're safer. You can't handle relating to someone without the pathetic safety net that online communication offers.

Forget this virtual girlfriend BS.

Go out and meet girls your own age.

Learn to live without a security blanket.

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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 10:00 PM
> For once, could you think with your brain and not your dick?
> She's what, 15? And you're what, 19? Jesus, Brad. The only
> relationship I've had where my girlfriend was younger than I
> was was when I was 15 and she was one grade before me, so
> therefore one year younger. It's not like I'm 17 right now
> and am hitting on 13 year olds. Christ.

OK, for one, since it's a long distance relationship, I'm not touching her... legal... end of story


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Reaper man
02-26-2003, 10:03 PM
> You know why you're in Long distance relationships? They're
> safer. You can't handle relating to someone without the
> pathetic safety net that online communication offers.

exactly... it's a LOT easier to talk to someone online than in real life... trust me



> Forget this virtual girlfriend BS.
> Go out and meet girls your own age.
> Learn to live without a security blanket.

too hard... i've tried eveything... going to malls to hit on chicks... going to supermarkets to hit on chicks... going to school to hit on chicks... hitting on chicks at work... signing up for local dating services to find chicks... asking EVERY SINGLE PERSON I KNOW to hook me up... it's not working ~_~


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icenine0
02-26-2003, 10:37 PM
At this point you may as well stay on your current path. Mere words are obviously not enough.

Mayhaps, if you get slamkicked in the balls enough times, you'll earn some wisdom and maturity.

I wish you well. <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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puduhead
02-26-2003, 11:22 PM
> asking EVERY SINGLE PERSON I KNOW to hook me up... it's not working ~_~

Your time will come Brad... well, probably. Believe it or not, there was a time when I got zero women and when I looked into my horizon of women, I saw nothing.

Now I'm Utah's #1 pimp. <img src=smilies/biggthumpup.gif>

Stay focused... but not too focused. <img src=smilies/magbiggrin.gif>

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shawn
02-27-2003, 03:17 PM
>i've tried eveything... going to malls to hit on
> chicks...
Wrong
>going to supermarkets to hit on chicks...
wrong
>going to school to hit on chicks...
wrong
>hitting on chicks at work...
wrong
> signing up for local dating services to find chicks...
wrong
> asking EVERY SINGLE PERSON I KNOW to hook me up...
This isn't to bad
> it's not working ~_~
Right!!!!!!!!!!

*Sigmund Freud voice* Vell Bradley vat we have here iz a problum wit your perspective.
Seriously Brad, put yourself in the ladies shoes*different point of view*, they get hit on from guys like you every single day, they get whistled at, hit on, and grabbed, they need you to grab their heart not just their attention because if you touch their heart you'll have thier undevided attention, be a gentleman, no swearing or dirty words, no lewdness whatsoever, and if you want to be with her some other time if you get past the ice breaking stage then politely tell them they are a really incredible person but don't act like your ready to marry them or jump thier bones at any time because that'll scare them but ask them if they might like to go rollerskating or to the circus or something else fun, take it slow and they just might take you up on it, but most of all be polite and don't get jumpy, good luck Brad. <img src=smilies/magbiggrin.gif>

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lord_steak
02-27-2003, 04:19 PM
> Now I'm Utah's #1 pimp.
>

I didn't know they had pimps in Utah, with all the Mormons around. <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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puduhead
02-27-2003, 04:28 PM
> > Now I'm Utah's #1 pimp.

> I didn't know they had pimps in Utah, with all the Mormons
> around.

That's why i don't have much competition. So my 1337 status is sort of misrepresented without considering that fact. <img src=smilies/laff.gif>

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SpaceTiger
02-27-2003, 04:54 PM
You know what girls like? They like understanding and maturity. They can smell fear and desperation from a mile away, and it repels them. Try not thinking in terms of "hitting on chicks," you will end up thinking of them as objects and you will come across as such.

There are some girls who will be impressed by guys acting all big and macho, but you probably don't want them. The best way that I've been able to get girls is to learn to talk to them and understand them (or at least pretend to). Also, you need to do it without expecting anything because they will usually be able to tell if you have a hidden agenda. Besides, you'll want to find out whether it's somebody you'll like as well. The best girlfriends also make great friends.

SpaceTiger

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puduhead
02-27-2003, 04:59 PM
> You know what girls like? They like understanding and
> maturity. They can smell fear and desperation from a mile
> away, and it repels them. Try not thinking in terms of
> "hitting on chicks," you will end up thinking of them as
> objects and you will come across as such.

Amen! And IMO, they are very attracted to confidence. Natural confidence, not that wannabe tough guy act shit.

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SpaceTiger
02-27-2003, 05:18 PM
> Amen! And IMO, they are very attracted to confidence.
> Natural confidence, not that wannabe tough guy act shit.

Yeah, my girlfriend actually told me this directly. Unfortunately, confidence can often make other guys feel threatened by you. I try to keep a healthy balance, but it's tough sometimes.


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Octocrook
02-28-2003, 10:57 PM
I'd give you words of advice but I've had the same problem with no solution. She even stopped using her AIM name to avoid me even though she and I had the same thoughts about it...that it would never work, and she supposedly liked me a lot too. I would have liked to remain friends with her, but shit...if she wants to go so far as to change her AIM name to avoid me, then screw her because that's not very "friend"ly at all.

As I am a lonely single guy like you, I can give maybe only one piece of advice: if a girl doesn't like you, don't care about it, at all. You can remain friends with her if you learn to not care about whether or not she likes you in that way. Rejection can be tough sometimes, but your determination can always get you a next contestant.

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shawn
03-01-2003, 12:00 AM
> Brad, I'm going to give you some advice on love, sex, dating
> and women so that you can develop yourself into a better man
> and not only be something that women want but find yourself
> the woman who is right for you.

Good solid advice there for sure

> Go to AskMen.com and read every single article in the Dating
> and Love Section and the Sexuality Section. In fact, the
> newest article in the Dating and Love Section, right towards
> the top of the main page (Dating Advice: Six Traits of a
> Supportive Woman), is excellent.

I think I'll check out this site myself, been alone for a long time, mostly because I'm afraid of ending up with another bad relationship but I've had time to look back and find it was all my own fault for jumping in without waiting or anything else for that matter.

> Don't just read the articles though - learn from them,
> expand your horizons from them. Challenge the ideas and
> facts presented in them and see how they work in life.
> Develop your own thoughts and opinions about the topics and
> mold them into what makes you who you are.

Haven't heard anything I can't call good advice so far.

> There are other sections on the site that are well worth
> your time to read as well, but since you seem to be stuck on
> love and sex and have very poor conceptions of both, I would
> start with those 2.

I agree, he seems to have the idea that relationships are something you jump right into and go from there and I had that view on them myself for many many years and I can do that myself and be happy but woman need more and it took a lot a pain and lonelyness to learn that for me.

> Finally, here's a little bit of personal advice from myself
> - don't ever rush into a relationship, and if you're not
> sure how you feel, get out of it and move on to something
> that you are sure of.

Great advice all the way around bud, now we can just hope he can buckle down and read all this stuff and use it in a constructive manner which will lead to a happy and long relationship. <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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puduhead
03-01-2003, 02:38 AM
> I'm not going to hold back. you'll probably get mad, or
> think I'm being a dick. but your feelings will only get hurt
> because you know I'm right.

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SpaceTiger
03-01-2003, 04:43 AM
> the bottom line is that you're a social retard, and you're
> too scared to change that. I have no pity for you, as that
> would require me to put you on a level requiring pity. I
> barely categorize you as human, let alone pitiful.

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Just in case you didn't already know, Brad, not everybody on the board feels this way....



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shawn
03-01-2003, 09:51 AM
He's baaaaaccccckkk. <img src=smilies/magbiggrin.gif>
I can't believe it, you even shocked me, didn't think you still could, damn was I wrong. <img src=smilies/eek5.gif>

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type_x
03-01-2003, 01:13 PM
Damn dude, that's stone cold steve.

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SpaceTiger
03-02-2003, 05:27 AM
> plus, he'll probably think "well, he just wanted to hurt
> me". so I'm sure I wasted keystrokes.

Some people react well to firmness, but that was just mean. I hope you don't actually expect to improve anybody's life that way.


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puduhead
03-02-2003, 05:47 AM
> Some people react well to firmness, but that was just mean.
> I hope you don't actually expect to improve anybody's life
> that way.

That may be true but also, you don't know Brad as well as we do... or Mushroom Blue for that matter. And in the "Mushroom Blue" context, that post has at least a possibility of striking the intended target. If I were to have said it, then yes, it would have been just plain meanness with no other purpose.

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SpaceTiger
03-02-2003, 05:53 AM
I suppose you're right. I don't know Brad's mental state, but I know that there have been times in my life where a rant like that would have depressed me a great deal and achieved nothing good. It kinda struck a chord in me.

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Reaper man
03-03-2003, 01:17 PM
> Remember the other day when I said that you have severe
> bouts of Dumbass Disease? well, this would be one of them.

I will agree with you on that

> I'm not going to hold back. you'll probably get mad, or
> think I'm being a dick. but your feelings will only get hurt
> because you know I'm right.

we'll see

> 1) you're too much of a fucking coward to date a real
> person.

Actually I would REALLY prefer an real relationship... and I'm not a coward

> you can be whoever you want online, and not have to
> actually spend the quality time required to build a
> relationship

well, with Rach and I we were talking for quite a while and became friends... and after that, sparks flew... sure it wasn't person to person, but it still took some time

> or let people see that you don't like
> yourself.

you're dead wrong there dude, ask Rach and other poeple who have seen me in a good mood.... I'm not like that at all... quite the opposite actually... you've probably only seen me when I'm down... and that's where I start acting like I don't like myself

it's a perfect fantasy world. of course, at the
> end of the day, you're still only fucking your right hand.
> your semen isn't all over a woman's stomach in a porno-style
> cumshot. it's dribbling down your knuckles, and making a
> pool in the chair and on the floor. you da man.

welll everyone masturbates... it's just that I don't have the best of luck with women in real life... but I AM getting better

> 2) you're too big a bitch to actually sit the fuck down, and
> get used to who you are as a person. you'd rather piss your
> youth away in message boards and on IRC. no work required.

hey, I just go here when I'm bored... and so does basically everyone else...

> you can be cool, or at least you tell yourself that. you can
> be liked, or at least you've convinced yourself that's true.
> why do the work on yourself when you can take the easy way
> out and just pretend? no one will notice.

y'know, I DO have friends.. well... a couple... and I like to hang out online... what's so bloody wrong with that? you might as well bitch about the other people here doing the exact same thing

> 3) you want to know why woman don't like you? because you
> don't like yourself.

not true

> your self doubt

about time you got something right... I hate having that... it has plagued me for all my life

> and pitiful attitude

you don't really know me well enough to make that judgement

> is about the equivalent of pussy deterrent spray. I saw what
> you said to Brooks below, you're a whiny little bitch,

look.. you don't see that I'm really the innocent one in that situation... I sent her ONE THING and she goes psycho on me... I try to apologise... she won't listen... who really in the wrong? think about it..
quite a few people are on my side on that one

and
> I'd slap the taste out of your mouth just out of general
> principle if I ever had the displeasure of meeting you in
> person.

and how would you know that for sure... do you know that I act irl EXACTLY like I do online? no... don't make assumptions

> the bottom line is that you're a social retard

it's called Aspergers syndrome... look it up... and on that note, I'm only mildly touched with it... AND I've improved my social skills within the past few years

> and you're too scared to change that.

<img src=smilies/laff.gif><img src=smilies/laff.gif><img src=smilies/laff.gif><img src=smilies/laff.gif><img src=smilies/laff.gif> oh god I remember ASKING my classmates in high school how to act LOL

> I have no pity for you, as that
> would require me to put you on a level requiring pity. I
> barely categorize you as human, let alone pitiful.

yeah, whatever....

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shawn
03-03-2003, 02:15 PM
Brad, I was wondering what you were going to do about Mushroomblue's post and I believe you handled yourself quite well and you didn't let him get to you either. You've seemed to have learned some of your lessons in communications/physichology well already, good job. <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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puduhead
03-03-2003, 04:27 PM
Nice counter-points there young Bradley. You're still a spaz but good job! <img src=smilies/thumb.gif>

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lord_steak
03-03-2003, 04:37 PM
> That sounds about as fraudulent as ADD.
>
> ADD = bad parenting. Nothing else.

Take it from somebody who's lived with it. Try living with my step-brother for awhile, and try to tell me ADHD doesn't exist, that it's just "bad parenting." If that's the case, then why did everyone else in the family turn out just fine, or very good with a few of 'em?

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mrfreeze
03-03-2003, 05:23 PM
Take it from someone who has it. I have ADHD, or at least the nice men in the white jackets say I do. I don't use it as an excuse for anything I have done in my life, but I do know that it affects me. I can function fine without the prescribed medication, but it does became damn hard at times to force myself to concentrate and stay motivated.
But as with any syndrome or disorder, I feel that using them as an excuse for your problems is unacceptable. Yes it may be more difficult to do things with such disorders, but it is not impossible. Therefore inability to do such things is your fault alone, not the disorders.


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lord_steak
03-03-2003, 05:32 PM
> But as with any syndrome or disorder, I feel that using them
> as an excuse for your problems is unacceptable. Yes it may
> be more difficult to do things with such disorders, but it
> is not impossible. Therefore inability to do such things is
> your fault alone, not the disorders.

What are you pointing the finger at me for? I'm not the guy whose problems have been discussed here; that's Brad. Check the username you're replying to before you do something like this again; a little while ago, insults were slung at the wrong person for such inattention. So, redirect that blurb at Brad. <img src=smilies/biggthumpup.gif>

What I did here was try to demonstrate (as best I can without the 11-year old motormouth step-brother of mine) that ADD and ADHD do exist.

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mrfreeze
03-03-2003, 05:43 PM
> What I did here was try to demonstrate (as best I can
> without the 11-year old motormouth step-brother of mine)
> that ADD and ADHD do exist.
>
I wasn't trying to put you down with that, it was in fact aimed at Brad but since it was relevant to your comment I put it as a reply to them. Sorry for the misunderstanding.


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lord_steak
03-03-2003, 05:46 PM
> Sorry for the misunderstanding.
>

It's all good. <img src=smilies/cwm11.gif>

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JadussD
03-03-2003, 09:52 PM
nice job taking all that criticism, and turning it into a "i'm going to counter every point of this insulting tirade by bullshitting myself and others in order to save face" type thing.

you need to fucking figure out who you are, even if what you find is unpleasant. lots of people think they are certain way for reasons that have nothing to do with the real, deeply rooted causes of their problems, and never take a step back and really consider themselves. these people are confused, sad individuals who can't possibly relate to anyone else because they can't even relate to themselves. oftentimes they'll just try to please everyone, and dismiss criticism, no matter how valid it is, as "meanness" or some other shallow term. they care what everyone else thinks about them because they are looking for others to show them who they are, instead of figuring it out for themselves.

i refer to people like that as "tools."

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SpaceTiger
03-04-2003, 12:45 AM
> That sounds about as fraudulent as ADD.
>
> ADD = bad parenting. Nothing else.

It amazes me how quickly people are willing to judge things they know absolutely nothing about.

It's too bad the psychologists didn't ask you, it would have saved them years of research.


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