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SwampGas
08-30-2004, 01:25 AM
I was out at Eat N Park with an old friend and N calls me out of the blue. She said she just wanted to see how I was doing. Mmmmm <img src=smilies/magbiggrin.gif>. I took that as a "HEY STUPID! ASK ME TO DO SOMETHING!" so I suggested we do something tonight...she's out grocery shopping now, but I hope I see her tonight.

We're both going down to http://www.tractortwang.comTwang</a> on tuesday to help paint the place...I'm going to ask her out to grab a quick snack beforehand.

If I get shot down, I'll be VERY confused. She does all these really nice things....but when it comes down to it, it never happens.

It's off the wall and very out there, but even though she's very outgoing, perhaps she's just as timid, distrusting, and reserved about relationships as I am. Maybe....just maybe she wants something in some official capacity, but the second the opportunity presents itself she runs away....just like me. It seems like that's what happens. It's strange that she would give all the go-ahead signs and then everytime it comes down to it somehow sneak out of it. If she wasn't interested, why would she treat me so well? Call me? Do things for me?

Story time. Back in the spring we did a line dancing workshop at a college....N was there. I asked her to do something afterwards, she said she had plans, so I went out with another friend. She calls a few minutes later and says her plans were canceled and she'd like to do something....I can't ditch my friend, so we meet her for some food.

He lays it on thick. That suave, bullshit, lying, fake, nonsense trying to get the lady. Afterwards she said she felt SO bad and worthless that someone would treat her like that....obviously I wasn't happy with him. She shot him down several times after that, plans didn't work out, etc...so then he declared he was "done with her." He constantly badmouthed her infront of me. It caused a LOT of tension between us....especially since she was seeing me (not "seeing" like THAT) and not him.

Now he suddenly likes her again....or something. Now that she's 21, he's determined to take her to the club. He was laying it on thick again last night and I just wanted to end his life. If she does agree to go out with him, I'm 99% certain she'll ask me to go along as well (just like every other time they were supposed to go out). No way. If he so much as puts a fingernail south of the border or does ANYTHING unkosher, I'll use my "http://www.blackline.com/publish/assets/images/Glock-19_l2.jpgmedical device</a>" that I have to carry around and end his life. I'd rather sit in jail the rest of my life and burn in hell than have her subjected to that. If they're together, I don't want to see it....it'll only make me sick since I know for a fact (as in, he TOLD me) that it's all lies and nonsense to get her naked.

Bah. Story over. <img src=smilies/angryfire.gif>

Her room mate from last year (and now one of many room mates this year) was talking to me at Twang yesterday and said "we should get a cup of coffee or something." She's a REALLY nice gal and we'd get along great....she's into politics and a big supporter of Bush (like me). I can't really do anything official since I'm madly in love with N, but it'll be good company. I like her.

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WhyteKnight
08-30-2004, 05:15 AM
> it'll only make me sick since I know for a fact (as in, he TOLD me) that it's all lies and nonsense to get her naked.


Blargh. Situations like that one blow goats. On one hand, it isn't the nicest thing in the world to do to a buddy, but on the other hand, being a friend of yours as well, this woman sort of deserves to know if it isn't blatantly obvious anyhow.

Either way, good luck with that.

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Goku
08-30-2004, 05:49 AM
Um, this N and you thing seems to be going on forever. May I ask why don't you just tell this girl your feelings and be done with it. You may be crushed, but atleast you will know.

Besides, from the way you post, it seems all signs are pointing to "yes". Wait to long and the opportunity could pass.



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SwampGas
08-30-2004, 05:49 AM
> Blargh. Situations like that one blow goats. On one hand, it
> isn't the nicest thing in the world to do to a buddy, but on
> the other hand, being a friend of yours as well, this woman
> sort of deserves to know if it isn't blatantly obvious
> anyhow.

The woman I LOVE, at that.

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Atma
08-30-2004, 06:02 PM
I dunno about you swamp, but if I had a friend like that, I'd be telling him to back the fuck off. If he really is a friend, he would respect that you have an actual interest in her, and he wouldn't try to fuck you over like that.

That's just my opinion though.

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thinkagain
08-30-2004, 06:48 PM
ask some of her friends... if she feels the same way she would have told some of them by now.

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MooglyGuy
08-30-2004, 07:50 PM
Get over it and ask her out. Immediately. As in, now. He who hesitates his lost, and if I were you I wouldn't give him a second chance to lay his goddamn lines on her.

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The 9th Sage
08-31-2004, 01:58 AM
> Um, this N and you thing seems to be going on forever. May
> I ask why don't you just tell this girl your feelings and be
> done with it. You may be crushed, but atleast you will
> know.

I was in a situation like that once, and it just felt so good to let my feelings be known. I felt so much better afterwards.

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Goku
08-31-2004, 02:58 AM
> I was in a situation like that once, and it just felt so
> good to let my feelings be known. I felt so much better
> afterwards.

It pays of big time. I was living wiht this girl. She was in canada to learn english. She was from Japan. Because i have few friends here and she had few friends here, we spent alot of time together. We would walk everywhere.

Well, i developed very strong feelings. I hid them at first but they got to strong. So, in a non threatening way I told her about them. I told her that I realize were living together and it is awkward, but i have developed romantic feelings for her. Considering a situation, i told her that it was fine if we stayed friends.

One week later, we were together. 6 months later, we are engaged.

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The 9th Sage
08-31-2004, 03:05 AM
I wish my own situation had gone like that, heh.
But at least I tried, I can say in the least.

> One week later, we were together. 6 months later, we are
> engaged.
>


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Goku
08-31-2004, 03:07 AM
> I wish my own situation had gone like that, heh.
> But at least I tried, I can say in the least.

It is better that way. When you dont you waste all the time gawking and pining over the girl


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The 9th Sage
08-31-2004, 05:18 AM
> It is better that way. When you dont you waste all the time
> gawking and pining over the girl

Yeah, it is better in that regard.


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Octocrook
08-31-2004, 06:50 AM
To quote Greg Kinnear's character in As Good As It Gets, "At least you know who you love." And albeit part of a fictitious movie, ol' Jackie goes to her home right then and there and spills his feelings for her and things end happily ever after. It's never going to get to the "happily ever after" without you letting her know how you feel about her, and you will either be relieved that she loves you back, or you will be relieved that all the suspense is overwith and you can find someone else to love that will love you back. I keep beating myself up about lost opportunities, and NONE of them were EASY opportunities...it ALWAYS takes a risk and you just have to push yourself into it.

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