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icenine0
02-28-2004, 08:49 PM
Have you ever met someone who could absolutely not take a hint? If not, allow me to introduce you.

Our story begins in a moderately-sized junior high cafeteria where a certain greasy long haired guy with a severely grating personality moderately and consistently annoys me from day one. The kid has a fragile ego and not a whole lot of friends, so I tolerate talking with him day by day at lunch. Even so, I wouldn't really call him a "buddy" and I try my damnedest not to do anything with him. Often for weeks, I'll go without giving him a phone call and, nine times out of ten, make up a random excuse not to do something; you know, to severely discourage things.

This doesn't seem to phase him one bit. Meeting up with this guy in the halls and having him as an acquaintance is unavoidable throughout high school. He's okay in small doses, and I don't want to tell the poor guy off, so, again, I just try to restrict our meetings to within classes. He'll give me a call after school once in a while, I'll listen to him blather about his favorite game, and I'll sort of say "Yeah, uh-huh, yeah yeah" as he talks for 30 minutes. My friend's and I give him the cold shoulder on and off, but again, to no effect. He just won't go away.

Alright, fast forward to NOW. Somehow, the sum of all of my efforts to get rid of this guy has made him see me as the irreplaceable super-friend of his lifetime. You see, last I heard from him, he had a girlfriend and some buddies and whatnot, so I figured, "Yeah, now it's time to let things slide. " So, I don't answer his calls, figuring he'll move on. He's continued to phone me... for the past six months. He still dials my number. He's the type of person to whom you could say "I'm sorry, I shouldn't be your friend anymore, I have a highly contagious skin disease." And he'd reply "Let's hug!"

The last message he left was something to the effect of "Tyson, okay... either you're really busy, or you've just totally spaced it, or... you're avoiding me. I need to talk to you. I need closure, I need to move on with my life. It's been six or eight months now."

Yeah, no shit. I know if I contact this guy at all, it's just going to encourage him, unless I just tell him to go to teh fiery pits of hell.

So, should I:
(a) continue to ignore him.
(b) tell him the truth (i.e. "You know, I never really liked you, my buddies found you annoying, you smell like cheese.")
(c) make up some really unlikely-to-work excuse to completely and permanently part on good terms.

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Dark Macc
02-28-2004, 08:59 PM
Honetly, I'd just go with "C." I'm sure a lot of people wont agree with me here, but there's no real reason to make the guy feel like shit and what not... he probably just isn't very quick on the uptake, so... Yeah.

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icenine0
02-29-2004, 02:07 AM
Yeah, that sounds good. Except for calling the guy up after six months will be incredibly awkward... I'd have to figure something else out for that too.

Oh, yes, ah... I just realized the way I put my first post probably unintentionally alienated 90% of the board members. It's now reworded. I don't dislike people who enjoy video games/anime/D&D (hell, I dig the first two myself!), but that's how it came off. Anyway, it's fixed now. Let the advice commence!

> Honetly, I'd just go with "C." I'm sure a lot of people wont
> agree with me here, but there's no real reason to make the
> guy feel like shit and what not... he probably just isn't
> very quick on the uptake, so... Yeah.
>

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Narvi
02-29-2004, 05:14 AM
Here's what you do. Tell him you really are very busy nowadays and you don't have much time to hang out.

It works. My friends and I have done that to each other. Although we'd like to hang out, we are all just too busy.

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icenine0
02-29-2004, 06:36 AM
See, that's actually a very good and plausible idea, especially since he already thinks I'm extensively preoccupied with my company.

However, we did (unfortunately) hire him for a short period of time in the past when we were really swamped with Christmas orders. And, being the jobless fellow that he is, he'll probably offer to help again.

See, that's what's so difficult about this guy. He's nice, he means well, and he really wants friends --- he's just absolutely grating to be around. If he was a dick, I'd've told him off years ago. It's too bad.

Anyway, back to your suggestion: I suppose I could tell him the work is managerial in nature and that we have plenty of builders. However, the big, big problem is that I'll have a tough time convincing him that I had/have absolutely, positively NO TIME to talk or hang out, especially since I've been dismissing his random, infrequent phone calls that somehow covered every conceivable day/time combination in the past half a year. If I just tell him I'm busy, he'll still call and want to do stuff. I'm absolutely sick of stringing things along; I've had a four year share of that.

Ugh. I guess I'm really left with this choice:

1. Give him the unintended impression I enjoy his company and suffer through his occassional phonecalls/requests to do stuff ad infinitum.

2. Ignore him/tell him what's up and sever things messily.

Lookin' like option 2...

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Kuikorosu
02-29-2004, 06:41 AM
> The last message he left was something to the effect of
> "Tyson, okay... either you're really busy, or you've just
> totally spaced it, or... you're avoiding me. I need to talk
> to you. I need closure, I need to move on with my life.
> It's been six or eight months now."

^--- GAY

> Yeah, no shit. I know if I contact this guy at all, it's
> just going to encourage him, unless I just tell him to go to
> teh fiery pits of hell.

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blackize
02-29-2004, 12:19 PM
I've known people like that. There was this kid in my German class that would always talk to me in the halls and sit at my lunch table. He wasn't a terrible kid, except he was dirty and wore this green winter coat each and every day of the school year. I ignored him and he went away.

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