Lobster Cowboy
02-08-2004, 06:31 PM
here's how the story begins...
i date this girl for over two years, but we didn't have sex until a year-and-a-half into the relationship. when we finally got to that point, it was hardly spectacular, and we did it once every two weeks. at the time, i thought this was normal, so i curbed my libido to not really want sex at all.
this goes on for a bunch of months, and i'm talking to that girl on the phone, and for some reason the gears click into place, and i get the suspicion that she's been cheating on me. i ask point blank, and it turns out she is. and she just happens to mention that she and the guy are having sex multiple times a day, and blah blah blah. obviously i was crushed, but it left me with a bigger problem.
it made me hate sex. i had gotten so used to quashing my own urge, that i could take or leave it. like what was the problem? did i suck at it? what?
after that relationship ended, i dated this girl where all we did was have sex. it was the linchpin of our union. every single day we were together, we were getting it on, but in the back of my mind, it was sorta overwhelming. i got used to it once a month or so, and now it was all the time. i found it a bit hard to get used to this, having spent over two years making myself not care.
i break up with this girl, and i stay out of the game for like two years. i finally meet my current girlfriend, and of course the subject of sex comes up. it turns out she's had an adventurous past, and she has a crazy libido. now i know this is every guy's dream to meet a girl like this, but i am totally flipping out. my anxiety level is at an all time high. while i'm no slouch in bed, i feel overwhelmed. sorta the chasing amy effect ('cept this girl was not a lesbian). like, i want this girl like nobody's business, but i'm having trouble making moves.
is there a good way to get past this? this girl's a firecracker, and i don't want to lose her because she thinks i'm uninterested. like i want to get crazy with this girl, but i'm wondering how i get past the weirdness i feel. i like sex when i get there, but it's a chore to get there sometimes (like my brain gets in the way).
i especially want to here from puduhead here, or somebody who's not affected by this
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i date this girl for over two years, but we didn't have sex until a year-and-a-half into the relationship. when we finally got to that point, it was hardly spectacular, and we did it once every two weeks. at the time, i thought this was normal, so i curbed my libido to not really want sex at all.
this goes on for a bunch of months, and i'm talking to that girl on the phone, and for some reason the gears click into place, and i get the suspicion that she's been cheating on me. i ask point blank, and it turns out she is. and she just happens to mention that she and the guy are having sex multiple times a day, and blah blah blah. obviously i was crushed, but it left me with a bigger problem.
it made me hate sex. i had gotten so used to quashing my own urge, that i could take or leave it. like what was the problem? did i suck at it? what?
after that relationship ended, i dated this girl where all we did was have sex. it was the linchpin of our union. every single day we were together, we were getting it on, but in the back of my mind, it was sorta overwhelming. i got used to it once a month or so, and now it was all the time. i found it a bit hard to get used to this, having spent over two years making myself not care.
i break up with this girl, and i stay out of the game for like two years. i finally meet my current girlfriend, and of course the subject of sex comes up. it turns out she's had an adventurous past, and she has a crazy libido. now i know this is every guy's dream to meet a girl like this, but i am totally flipping out. my anxiety level is at an all time high. while i'm no slouch in bed, i feel overwhelmed. sorta the chasing amy effect ('cept this girl was not a lesbian). like, i want this girl like nobody's business, but i'm having trouble making moves.
is there a good way to get past this? this girl's a firecracker, and i don't want to lose her because she thinks i'm uninterested. like i want to get crazy with this girl, but i'm wondering how i get past the weirdness i feel. i like sex when i get there, but it's a chore to get there sometimes (like my brain gets in the way).
i especially want to here from puduhead here, or somebody who's not affected by this
<P ID="signature">http://socialistlobster.tripod.com/lobsterranx.txt</img> (http://www.mozilla.org)</P>